Do you know how to say no to people?

Does rejection really need skill? Or in fact, it's not that you don't know how to refuse, you just haven't found a good reason to refuse

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Hello, everyone, I'm Charles, have you ever tried to agree to someone to do something without knowing how to say no, even though you were very unwilling? In the future, will you have concerns about unnecessary friction in the follow-up development? Then today’s article is for you.

I have experienced many times, when I don’t know how to refuse the other party’s request, I force myself to do something I don’t want to do. In the end, I get nothing but my own time, as long as there is one rejection , it will be said that I seem to have done something wrong, but I don’t know how to say no to bring better opportunities for myself. We have always admired the quality of humility. Our parents taught us to be humble, to believe that suffering is a blessing, and to be a good person. As a result, most people are embarrassed to say "no" in the future, and gradually become unlucky. Don't argue about things, just compromise. In many cases, as long as you observe carefully, it is not difficult to find that one of the main reasons why many people are very tired is that they are responsive to others, and because they are too embarrassed to refuse the other party, they have brought a lot of pressure and trouble to themselves, and sometimes it is even thankless .

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Why are you so bad at saying no?

So have you ever asked yourself the question, why do I have to live like this? My life seems to be living for others. When asked what dream/goal you most want to achieve in this life, your mind goes blank for a moment... How can you escape from this predicament? Every time I am alone, I think about this question over and over again, and finally I come to the conclusion that the reason why most people are embarrassed to say "no" is not because they follow the belief that "the loss is the blessing". It's because I feel that I'm not good enough, I don't know my own weight, I don't know my own value, and I haven't set small goals for the goal that need to be completed, so I inadvertently bring out the message "I have time" to others. Others occupy your space, rob you of your initiative, and finally obey the other party's ideas and will to do "meaningful" things. As the days go by, this will only erode your personality continuously, making you less like yourself, more like a cowardly puppet, and finally lose yourself. If you also want to live for yourself and live most of your life meaningfully, then it's time to re-examine yourself.

Learning to say no is a rare ability

I really like what Steve Jobs once said: " Only by learning to say no, can you really focus on the more important things in life ."

On the other hand, when I really have the courage to reject others, it is only when I have found my ideal and set small goals that need to be implemented. Since that day, it seems that all affairs have been developing around this goal, and I have devoted all my time to this goal. Even if it is a gathering of friends or traveling, I will prefer to choose occasions that are helpful to the goal itself. I know what you're thinking, don't you feel like it's a bit too much, even counting time with friends? What if I lose friends because I need to pursue my goals? I want to say that true friendship will not deteriorate because of rejection. I really have a deep understanding of this aspect. I have a friend, I always call him "Pistachio". There are many goals that must be accomplished, and there is not much time to complete them, but he and his family are still very enthusiastic, and they often invite me to visit his house, sit and drink, and never let you go until you are full , Hahaha... Interesting and interesting, almost every time he would tell me not to work so hard, take some time to rest, health is important, my heart is warm... Those who are willing to embarrass you do not care too much about you Feeling, is this really worth your attention?

Only when you learn to reject people who will affect your progress, you are worthy of respect, your contribution is valuable, and your talent is worthy of being followed.

Summarize

With the development of the times, not knowing how to say no will only put you in a disadvantageous position. If you want to realize what you want in your heart, you need to do more subtraction instead of addition. Only by focusing can you have a chance to stand out. Don't pay too much attention to the fact that rejection will make you lose everything. On the contrary, learn to refuse, and you will select a group of friends who really care for you and applaud you. Re-examine the past and pay for the life you want to experience. If you have had a similar experience and want to post it, please leave a message, and we will study together 😊 .

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